Finished reading: The Midnight Library by Matt Haig 📚
Notes And Highlights
Seed sat on her dilapidated sofa scrolling through other people’s happy lives, waiting for something to happen. (Location 163)
Sounds familiar doesn’t it, looking at others portrayal of their lives becomes infinitely more interesting that improving our own.
‘Pressure makes us, though. You start off as coal and the pressure makes you a diamond.’ She didn’t correct his knowledge of diamonds. She didn’t tell him that while coal and diamonds are both carbon, coal is too impure to be able, under whatever pressure, to become a diamond. According to science, you start off as coal and you end up as coal. Maybe that was the real lesson. (Location 229)
A random throw away statement, that while not being most motivational makes perfect sense. We have this idea in our head that things are easy if we work hard or just put up without enough hardship. When in fact most of us are just stuck.
‘Cheer up, love, it might never happen,’ someone said. Nothing ever did, she thought to herself. That was the whole problem. (Location 355)
But Mrs Elm shook her head. ‘That isn’t how death works.’ ‘Why not?’ ‘You don’t go to death. Death comes to you.’ Even death was something Nora couldn’t do properly, it seemed. (Location 475)
This is so familure. When feeling those download spirals it feels as if nothing goes right and you can’t achieve anything. Even things completely out of your control feel like they are related to you. The pressure builds to a point where you can’t think positively about anything.
‘How do I know? I only know today. I know a lot about today. But I don’t know what happens tomorrow.’ (Location 915)
How much of life do you waste thinking about the time to come. If I can only get through today then tomorrow will be X,Y Z.
I have carefully calculated that the pain of me living as the bloody disaster that is myself is greater than the pain anyone else will feel if I were to die. In fact, I’m sure it would be a relief. (Location 924)
I wrote about this as a result of reading the paragraph above. I have often thoughts about fading away or ending it all, but my pain never seems to outweigh the pain I know other will experience and that gives me weird comfort.
‘Want,’ she told her, in a measured tone, ‘is an interesting word. It means lack. Sometimes if we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely. Maybe you have a lack problem rather than a want problem. (Location 930)
I love this idea, that want means a lack of. When we desire something what is the root lack of that we are experiencing to motivate the desire?
The lonely mind in the busy city yearns for connection because it thinks human-to-human connection is the point of everything. But amid pure nature (or the ‘tonic of wildness’ as Thoreau called it) solitude took on a different character. It became in itself a kind of connection. A connection between herself and the world. And between her and herself. (Location 1839)
Stimulation and connection is so easy to achieve now that many epople do not know how to be alone with themselves. Its make people so uncomfortable that that have no dealt with their own issues and emotions becuase they have never had to. Knowing yourself is the root to improving yourself.
The life of a human, according to the Scottish philosopher David Hume, was of no greater importance to the universe than that of an oyster. (Location 1971)
Yet we put amazing important on the life of a human but next to nothing on everything else in the environment. Why are we so important?
may have not been sure about what really did interest me, but I was absolutely sure about what didn’t. (Location 2168)
This rings so true to me, I still to this day have no idea what my ‘thing’ is, but I know what I don’t like and I think that’s enough.
It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see — Henry David Thoreau
It is easy to mourn the lives we aren’t living. Easy to wish we’d developed other talents, said yes to different offers. Easy to wish we’d worked harder, loved better, handled our finances more astutely, been more popular, stayed in the band, gone to Australia, said yes to the coffee or done more bloody yoga. (Location 3802)
The world online would have us believe that everyone else’s life is better than ours. No matter how great the universe is when you look around you, there are always ones that appear better. You can stare at the photos, read the words and watch the videos and never fail pick out things you wish for your own. It’s easy to see positives in others but not in yourself.
That the prison wasn’t the place, but the perspective. (Location 3904)
Where are we actually stuck?