Moving on and significant others

Chaitanya wrote

The crux of having other significant others (as coined by psychologist Eli Finkel) is to have your needs met from more than just your romantic partner. Your partner cannot always meet all your needs even if you expect them to. So, these are the people who would go along with you to exercise or listen to you vent about things your partner isn’t interested in hearing.

This is some of my issue and why I keep a lot of things to myself. I do not want to burden my wife with my problems, but have no real significant others the share things with.

There are people that reach out, and I am very grateful for this. But how personal do you get with people before feeling embarrassed? Looking back I’m not sure I’ve ever had friends close enough to share my frustrations and worries with. That’s pretty weird isn’t it?


  1. The beauty of people reaching out to you on the internet is, as long as you trust / know them enough, you can be more free to share as personal as you’re comfortable with. There’s little chance you’re going to bump into them in Tesco and have an awkward situation after.

  2. @gr36 I think it is getting quite common for the newer generations to have lesser people to talk to. It is also getting harder to trust people around with so many conflicted ideas that everyone associates themselves with.

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